Aging Well Together: Promoting Longevity, Connection, and Well-Being Throughout Lifespan
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One of my first long-term vocations was working as a caregiver or Certified Nursing Assistant (CNA). Before becoming an associate licensed counselor in 2025, I spent approximately seven years caring for older adults throughout Washington State. In addition, I grew up in an intergenerational home where I grew up being part of the caregiving support system for my grandmother back in the Philippines. During that time I was working as a CNA, I service for older adults in a variety of settings, including rehabilitation centers, nursing homes, independent living communities, and one-on-one home care. I had the privilege of supporting elders from diverse backgrounds across the Pacific Northwest, an experience that continues to shape how I approach relationship-building, compassion, and care today. I witnessed firsthand the importance of helping older adults maintain dignity, independence, and meaningful connections within their communities. These experiences continue to influence how I view caregiving, aging, and mental health support today.
According to Rural Health Information Hub (2022), the older adult population continues to grow, with an estimated annual increase of 3.1%. By 2030, approximately one in five adults in the United States will be age 65 or older. Additionally, women are expected to comprise approximately 55.1% of the older adult population. As individuals age, their access to healthcare and support services may vary depending on whether they reside in urban, suburban, or rural communities. According to the Federal Interagency Forum on Aging-Related Statistics (2024), 17.5% of older adults in the United States live in rural areas. It is also estimated that nearly 90% of older adults will live with one or more chronic health conditions. Despite these challenges, approximately 90% of older adults in the United States prefer to “age in place” where they are choosing to remain in their own homes rather than move in with family members or transition to institutional care settings (National Rural Health Association (2025).
This isolation becomes a major barrier to getting help, and support that older adults need during their late adulthood. For instance, suicide remains one of the leading causes of death among adults age 75 and older in the United States, with rates often being higher in rural communities. Among older adults who die by suicide in rural areas, the number of older men deaths are disproportionately higher than older women. Firearms are the most common method of suicide among older men. There are many factors that contribute to challenges in supporting the mental health, longevity and overall well-being of older adults, especially in rural areas. One important concept is the Aging and Disability Services (ADS) Desert (Pendergrast et al., 2022; Punch, 2021), which describes individuals with disabilities and older adults to have limited access to healthcare, transportation, nutritious food, social services, and infrastructure that supports accessibility, independence, and quality of life. These communities are often referred to as "deserts" because residents experience geographic isolation and significant barriers to obtaining essential services and resources. Oftentimes, individuals, people with disabilities, and older adults living in these “deserts” need to travel outside of their town or county to get the essential services they need. Considering a global perspective, ADS “deserts” may look so much different in other countries, considering geographical considerations, and advancements in societies.
Additional factors that influence older adults' ability to successfully maintain their health and well-being include biological changes that are harder to manage in old age; cultural and generational influences; globalization and advances in technology; social isolation; geographic barriers; stereotypes; age-related biases; the growing racial and ethnic diversity of older adult populations in rural communities. Using a biopsychosocial and cultural framework, the following are some of the most common issues affecting older adults:
Physical Health - Chronic health conditions, obesity, oral health concerns, tobacco use, Alzheimer's disease and other forms of dementia, declining physical functioning, increased risk of accidents (e.g., falls), malnutrition, and polypharmacy (the use of multiple medications) (Marcinkowski et al., 2025; Sun, 2023)
Psychological Well-Being - Fear of aging, hopelessness, depression, loneliness, loss of meaningful roles or purpose, major life transitions (e.g., retirement), and grief (Ribeiro et al., 2017).
Social - Age-related myths and stereotypes, ageism, social isolation, loneliness, and feelings of worthlessness or internalized negative beliefs about aging can limit social connections. Identities such as widowhood, changes in sexuality capabilities and expression, and spirituality also contributes to disconnection.
Systemic - Housing instability, poverty, transportation barriers, food insecurity, limited access to healthcare services, and inadequate health insurance coverage.
As the older adult population continues to grow, increasing awareness of the unique issues faced by older adults and addressing service gaps become increasingly important. Additionally, examining our own attitudes, assumptions, and biases related to aging and disability is essential for enhancing both personal and professional responsiveness. By engaging in self-reflection, we can become more effective advocates and better support the needs, dignity, and well-being of older adults and individuals with disabilities.
Psychosocial Development Theory
To better understand the psychological and social development of older adults, I often draw from Erik Erikson's Psychosocial Development Theory (Orenstein & Kaur, 2022). I will not explore the full theory in depth here, but if you would like to learn more about the framework, I encourage you to read this article. Dr. Erik Erikson, a German-born American psychoanalyst, proposed that human development occurs across a series of developmental stages throughout the lifespan. According to him, each stage involves a unique psychosocial task that contributes to an individual's growth and sense of identity. The stages include:
Stage 1- Trust vs. Mistrust
Stage 2- Autonomy vs. Shame and Doubt
Stage 3- Initiative vs. Guilt
Stage 4- Industry vs. Inferiority
Stage 5- Identity vs. Role Confusion
Stage 6- Intimacy vs. Isolation
Stage 7- Generativity vs. Stagnation
Stage 8- Integrity vs. Despair
Each developmental stage presents an opportunity for individuals to develop and integrate psychological strengths that shape their personality, identity, and overall development. Successfully navigating each stage contributes to the acquisition of a virtue that supports growth, resilience, and maturity throughout the lifespan. Older adults enter the final stage of Erikson's Psychosocial Development Theory- The Integrity vs. Despair. During this eighth and last stage, individuals reflect on their lives and evaluate the meaning of their full life experiences. When they achieve a sense of integrity, they develop wisdom, acceptance, and the ability to view their life journey as meaningful and worthwhile. In a study, they found that reminiscing positive memories among older adults increases well-being (Bohlmeijer et al., 2007; Cuevas et al., 2020).
In contrast, despair is characterized by regrets over missed opportunities, dissatisfaction with one's life, fear of death, or a sense that life has not been lived fully. Based on the information presented throughout this blog, many of the challenges facing older adults may appear to align with the despair side of Erikson's Psychosocial Development Theory. However, recent strengths-based research suggests that older adults can continue to thrive and live lives characterized by purpose, meaning, and integrity. One example is the concept of Blue Zones, which are regions around the world where people tend to live longer, healthier lives.
Blue Zones Areas
Through a strengths-based lens, aging can be viewed not as a limitation, but as an opportunity to cultivate wisdom, resilience, meaningful relationships, and a deeper appreciation for life. If we promote and strive for integrity as a way of living characterized by wisdom, purpose, and the ability to make thoughtful life choices, then many individuals living in Blue Zones could are in state of integrity.
Blue Zones are regions of the world where there is a higher concentration of people who live exceptionally long lives compared to neighboring populations ( Kreouzi et al., 2022; Poulain et al., 2013). Individuals who live to age 100 or older are known as centenarians (Buettner & Skemp, 2016; Kreouzi et al., 2022). Researchers have identified five original Blue Zones: Sardinia, Italy; Loma Linda, California; Okinawa, Japan; Nicoya, Costa Rica; and Ikaria, Greece. Scientists and researchers have studied the lifestyles, behaviors, and environments of centenarians living in these zones to better understand the positive factors associated with longevity and well-being. Their findings led to the development of nine principles known as the Power of 9. Here are the following principles:
Move naturally- Small, consistent acts of everyday movement in a natural environment helped support the people who have the longest longevity. Activities such as gardening and walking allowed centenarians to exercise balance, flexibility, and endurance in ways that are gentle on the body.
Purpose- The word “purpose” is called different things in different languages across the globe, and centenarians describe it as something that keeps you waking up in the morning. This, scientists claim, adds extra days to their lives.
Downshift- People in the regions with the longest longevity reduce stress by living life simply. They shed things that cause stress and clutter. Simplifying includes prayer, naps, and happy hour.
80% Rule- In Okinawa, a mantra before meals is to only fill the body to 80% and stop as soon as one feels full. People in Blue Zones eat smaller portions during the early morning and late afternoon, and they also practice fasting on some days.
Plant slant- Eating a mainly plant-based diet is practiced across Blue Zone areas. If they eat meat, they do so in moderation and in small portions.
Regulate alcohol intake-Centenarians consume alcohol (except Adventists) regularly and in moderation. Drinking wine is social and is usually consumed with food.
Belong- Most centenarians engage in faith-based communities. Studies suggest that engaging in faith-based activities at least four times per month can add four to fourteen years to life expectancy. Malone et al. (2018) supported the findings of the utility of spirituality in holistic needs of older adults’ well-being.
Loved ones first-Centenarians prioritize their loved ones and family first. This family includes parents, grandparents, and children. Living in close proximity to them adds at least three years to life expectancy.
Right tribe- Being in the right community with the right people can influence behavioral patterns that shape positive aging and promote well-being. Corey et al. (2018) and Gladding (2012) have found that group counseling for older adults mitigate feelings of loneliness and isolation.
Since the discovery of the Blue Zones, the concept has grown into a global movement promoting longevity, healthy aging, and overall well-being. The Blue Zones movement continues to expand, inspiring communities around the world to adopt practices that support longer, healthier, and more connected lives. In the Pacific Northwest, Walla Walla, Washington (a community located approximately four hours from Seattle) was designated a certified Blue Zones community in 2024. In Washington State, areas such as Mason County, Grays Harbor County, and Lewis County are actively working on promoting healthy aging and working on becoming future Blue Zones. The continued growth of Blue Zones demonstrates that healthy aging is not solely determined by genetics but is also influenced by lifestyle, social connections, environment, and community support. As more communities embrace these principles, there is an opportunity to promote well-being across the lifespan and create environments that support people in aging with purpose, connection, and dignity.
